Be More Abundant
Uplevel your money Psychology and learn how to be more abundant
Examining and knowing who you are in relation to money and abundance is extremely revealing and can put an entirely new perspective on your sense of worth and entitlement. Very seldom do we take time out to look at the kind of relationship we have with money. Without being aware of it you may have a scarcity mind-set and sabotage your ability to attract what you need. Pertinent habits, behaviour and thoughts around money will tell you where you stand while a new way of thinking can drastically alter your situation. Kick off your process by seeing how you have been conditioned to think.
Statements like: “We can’t afford that, you have to work hard for your money, rich people are crooked, wait for the sales; is repeated negative input which becomes ingrained in the subconscious. We collect fear about money and when circumstances offer us the abundance we want we thwart our opportunities because they don’t match our conditioned negative beliefs. How familiar is the story of people who are given an unexpected inheritance or who win the lotto only to be back in a state of poverty in less than two years.
When listening to the news we absorb the fear that surrounds inflation scares, banks threaten us with poverty in old age unless we do x, y and z. Everyone around us is airing their fears about things being too expensive, about not being able to afford a standard of living.
We automatically take on beliefs like, if I lose my job it will be the end of me, if I can’t meet a payment I will be ruined. Learn from traditions that don’t have a culture of fear, rarely worry about their ability to be nurtured and as a result exercise a much higher degree of faith that becomes true for them. For instance Bushmen and aboriginal cultures never dispute the fact that they will always find something to eat. They have implicit trust and no anxiety.
We are conditioned to feel bad about wanting money, the expression “money is the root of all evil” makes people feel bad about openly stating they want lots of money. As Wallace Wattle (The Science of Getting Rich) says, “Whatever may be said in praise of poverty the fact remains that it is not possible to live a really complete or successful life unless one is rich.”
Observing your behaviour with regard to money will tell you where your money hang-ups are, revealing practices and attitudes that are either healthy or need work to lead you to be more abundant.
Find out whether you have negative beliefs around money by asking yourself some pertinent questions.
Do you sabotage money opportunities because you feel you aren’t deserving? Is it easy to ask for money that you have lent to someone? Are you upfront about what you would like to earn or charge for your services?
Everything pertaining to your money matters can be seen as a result of a mental formula put into practice by conscious and unconscious conditioning. Limiting belief patterns often stem from guilt, fear and self-esteem which are key areas in creating an abundance consciousness.
Check your family dynamics. Try and remember what your parents told you about money. Firstly look at your conditioning. You already have a whole series of rules, beliefs and thoughts about money that have been inherited from your parents. It’s very easy to spot these by listening to the parent voice in your head. As you duck out the office after lunch planning to head for the beach, do you hear a voice in your head saying, “Unless you work 9 to 5 you will never get anywhere” or does it say “Well done, you deserve a break”.
Try out a number of different situations like buying shoes that are too expensive, spending your last note on flowers, starting your own business instead of getting a job, or deciding to become an artist instead of accountant, charging someone a worthwhile fee instead of a discounted fee and etc. Check each action for scolding parent voices and make a list of negative money beliefs. Find ways of getting rid of them by checking them against facts. Look at self worth and ego. Did you grow up with repeated statements like, we can’t afford it, there isn’t enough, you don’t deserve X, Y or Z? Has any of this conditioning left its mark?
If love was demonstrated through gifts and not through physical affection, you may subconsciously keep yourself poor so as to be in a position to accept gifts from family. Material possessions and gifts may be interpreted by you as representing love. In some cases, attention may only have been given in the form of correction. Failing financially then serves the purpose of bringing sought after attention.
Shame also features in many cases, shame of having too little or shame about having so much. Whatever amount of money you have now you will find it easier to have more, if you accept what you have as okay, rather than feel ashamed about it. Another common belief is that ‘poor is righteous’. Subscribing to this may lead you to believe that the desire for money makes you a bad person and will not assist you to be more abundant.
Check self esteem levels and feelings of deserving. Try lying in bed all day doing nothing that you feel you should be doing. See whether you like yourself while you are doing nothing. Note whether your self-approval is based on performance or if you have unconditional love for yourself. If you don’t manage a whole day, try it again. Keep practicing until you master this exercise. Money won’t add to your self-esteem but self-esteem will add to your money.
Be aware of gender/colour issues, some women still think that they are entitled to a lower salary because of their gender. Money responds to the commands of your mind and knows nothing of your gender or colour.
Contrary to popular belief, education, occupation, position or hard work are not factors in creating abundance. Nor is money able to solve financial problems. Neither is it always the most effective, productive and deserving people that rise to top positions. To avoid experiencing the fear of success the mind skillfully creates all sorts of reasons and excuses. Leaving these unchallenged excuses to take root makes it impossible to take the decisions and action needed to be more abundant.
Research also shows that working 9 to 5 doesn’t necessarily bring wealth. Many people without degrees or who have failed at school become millionaires. Some billionaires started businesses with no more than R100. Do your own research and find more useful facts about people who have created wealth and how you can be more abundant.
See how you reward yourself; surveys reveal that self-employed people frequently underpay themselves, essentially servicing their businesses instead of allowing their work to service them.
Be aware of not demonstrating a need for money. Psychologically you are equating need with lack and so with shortage. You may have the belief that the need for money is what creates money. Be certain that money will still come to you even if you don’t have a need.
Don’t blame the government. Many economic doctrines use an analysis of the economy to make excuses about lack of money. This doesn’t hold too well when in every situation there are still people who exist who are making lots of money. Should the economic system disappear, another one will have to be formulated. Should all the wealth in the world be redistributed there will be enough for everyone to have a surprisingly high standard of living.
Another area is your money language. Can you easily speak about money? Have you ever made an agreement or transaction without mentioning money and then felt uncomfortable about it afterwards? Practice speaking openly about money in your pursuit to be more abundant.
Look at how you treat your cash, do you stuff it in your wallet or purse, do you fold it up neatly, do you always run out of cash or do you always have money on you?
Positive money beliefs to be more abundant:
Use the following to inspire your own list of abundance laws.
Once negative money beliefs are excavated from the subconscious and corrected, simple abundance practices will make financial success into a reality.
Don’t take money too seriously. Most people still think their paper representation of money is backed by a supply of gold. Nowadays money is nothing other than printed pieces of paper that we have all agreed to use as a commodity of exchange. Years ago, written on our rands was a promise signed by the governor of the Reserve bank to pay the bearer a certain amount of gold on demand. Who noticed when that disappeared? In essence money has no value of its own. What’s more, once the Reserve bank has printed all those bits of paper the circulation of money makes the supply practically unlimited.
Change your attitude and be cheerful about paying out money. Know that every rand you spend will come back to you multiplied. Bless your bills and thank your creditors for trusting you to honour them. Pay bills with joy. Instead of writing ‘sixty three rand only’ (showing a reluctance to pay out more) try writing ‘sixty three rand exactly’. Give cheerfully even to people that don’t need it. This will dissolve the mental association between money and need. Believe that the more willing you are to prosper others; the more willing others will be to prosper you. Know that there is no short supply. Abundance is everybody’s birthright and is a natural state of being.
Pointers to remember to be more abundant:
- What you ask for is what you will get. If you charge more or less, most of the time you will get more or less.
- People know where they stand and feel more comfortable when money is discussed up front.
- Your abundance barometer will mirror your relationship with money and will improve as your attitude improves.
- Guilt, fear and self-esteem are key improvement areas in building an abundance consciousness.
- Unconscious self-sabotage often causes us to forfeit incoming money flow.
- Unnecessary self-made rules and parameters stand in the way of how we reward ourselves.
- Invalid excuses can stand in the way, e.g. environment doesn’t necessarily make you rich. Working hard doesn’t make you rich. Education doesn’t necessarily make you rich. Winning the lottery doesn’t necessarily make you rich.
- Having a clear picture of what you want without feeling guilty is imperative.
- Living as though it is already there helps make it concrete.
- Allowing abundance to come to you in a different way to how you expected is important, sometimes things we have asked for come to us packaged differently and because of a highly structured mind-set we don’t recognise it.
Dispelling negative beliefs and be more abundant:
Like other relationships, your relationship with money carries baggage, has perceptions, expectations and hidden agenda’s.
Start by un-creating all that you have created. Imagine the spaciousness and clarity without all those limiting structures and messy thoughts clouding your mind. Fear around money is mostly unfounded. If you are threatened by losing a job, see which attitude you take. You could either believe you won’t be taken care of or you could be excited knowing a new possibility will open up for you. Ban negative language.
Expressions such as ‘working yourself to death’ ‘money to live on’, ‘a living wage’ or ‘earn a living’ informs your subconscious that not having money could be fatal. If your belief system is that money is essential to your survival then you may sacrifice too much to get it including staying at a job that you don’t want.
See if you are only able to reward yourself once a certain amount of work has been completed? Or if you sometimes work for free to absolve your conscience about other less fortunate people? Make sure that you haven’t ‘ruled’ out abundance in your life.
Remember that the buyer and seller in each and every case determine the value of money. Absorbing this fact will relieve guilt about money, fear of cheating others, and fear of being cheated yourself. Don’t get involved in competitive thinking; know there is more than enough for everyone. Don’t think about what you don’t want. Be content to start from where you are. Find places in your life where you already have the things you want. The practise of gratitude is known to increase beneficial feelings.
Put the following abundance practices to the test and create your own financial success.
Ask for what you want & be more abundant
How easy is it to ask for money, even money that is owed to you? Socially it is more acceptable to complain about what you have than it is to ask for what you want. Remember you always have the right to negotiate.
Learn how to sell and like it
Master selling, everything in life involves selling, whether it is yourself, your services or a product. Be creative about selling yourself and your attributes. Identify what you love and let that love inspire your ability to negotiate.
Cut up your credit cards
Running a positive cash flow will make you feel abundant. Don’t take advantage of credit just because it is there. When you spend money you have it feels more empowering. If you are overdrawn have a positive attitude about it while things change.
Work for yourself
People that work for themselves generally are working at things they love. Then work doesn’t feel like work and you can set your own parameters and profit levels.
Make abundance visible
Always keep a R100 note in your wallet or purse. Never spend this money and your mind will never allow you to believe you have no money.
Tithing is an ancient prosperity principle. Regularly giving away 10% of your income connects you with a receiving network. Think of it as a spiritual investment, that pays excellent dividends.
Budgeting prevents unconscious impulses. Don’t wait to have a lot of money before you decide to budget. Look at spending patterns that divulge unhealthy money practices. Think of making a business in areas that you spend most of your money and your expenses will reduce considerably. Challenge yourself to find ways of increasing quality and pleasure without necessarily spending money.
Don’t make money your emergency
In psychological terms, saving for emergencies helps to create them.
Pay yourself first
Show yourself some recognition by paying yourself 10% of your earnings. Put this into a savings account. Make yourself your most important creditor.
Keep money aside for taxes. Negotiating with the taxman from a position of strength will be a much easier exercise.
Be more abundant. Money in the bank creates an assurance and feeling of safety. Don’t wait to get out of debt before you start saving, put aside an amount every month, even if it is a small amount. No more than 20% of your income should go to debt repayments. If you have huge debt, negotiate a payment plan with your creditors. Pay each creditor a small amount. Saving will benefit your attitude about money. Expenses shouldn’t be more than 70% of your income, leaving 20% for repayments and 10% for saving. If you receive money irregularly keep an account and pay yourself a monthly regular salary from this account, to be distributed into another account.
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Open your mind to prosperity by Catherine Ponder (De Vorss & Company)
Money is my Friend by Phil Laut (Vivation)
Road to Wealth by Suze Orman (Penguin)
Wake up to Wealth by Bob Mandel (Celestial Arts)
Be more abundant by following the practices in the article above.